STRESS:

            The Good and the Bad when starting a business

          Can anybody vouch that they’ve never felt the pinch of STRESS at some point in their lives? Let him be an Employee or an Employer, a Home-maker or a Super-mom or your Cranky Child. What is STRESS?

          

     Stress is the response you have when faced with a challenge or a potential threat. Stress is BENEFICIAL in SMALL DOSES, however when stress is a CONSTANT PART of your life, it HINDERS YOU and your PERFORMANCE at WORK. 

      

     Our body shows the first sign of stress by default. The symptoms could be PHYSICAL like aches and pains, blood pressure or even increased risk of heart attack; BEHAVIOURAL SYMPTOMS like anger, overly emotional, depressed, lack of energy, impatience, or even suicidal tendencies; SOCIAL STRESS OR RELIGIOUS STRESS. “Lok kay boltil?” majorly governs our life, “Me engineer jhalo karan vadilanchi iccha hoti”, “Me ratra-divas ek kartoy pan majha Udyog kahi baharat nahi”, “Kiti hi kele tari bayko khush hot nahi”. Simply trying to ignore the issues or having a few extra drinks might help for some time but in the long run??

    

       Sure, stress will remain a part of our life but if it is affecting your performance at work and your general well-being, it is essential to work on it so that it becomes a positive part of your life by really bringing the best out of you.

       Still if you are unable to see a way out, you can surely take support. Having Counseling can help you address the underlying issues related to your stress, such as low self-esteem, lack of confidence; by offering a safe environment for you to explore your issues and fears in confidence. It aids in your growth, both personal and professional. So next time you feel STRESS, remember it's worth taking the steps to find ways of reducing it because when managed well; stress can improve your productivity and help bring the best out of you when you need it the most. 

        

POONAM R. KHAIRNAR

RELATIONSHIP COUNSELOR


https://udyojak.org/poonamkhairnar

www.poonamkhairnar@gmail.com

MY JOURNEY..

RELATIONSHIP COUNSELOR

                  Starting my career as a Counselor was itself a challenge to me too. My professional career as a Pharmacist was in trouble, had just made a round to a Lawyer's office trying to search for an outcome for the turbulent marriage. It was a chaos with family and friends and well wishers almost everybody providing "free of cost" advice for the literally "life and death" situation of mine!!

                  I must say all the ideas, advices, pravachans bombarded on me did to some point provide solace, comfort, breathing space too. However, none of it seemed to be long term. It did seem to provide me instant gratification like the 5 minutes instant noodles!! Obviously, the fish market chaos would return in no time in my head.

               Oddly, I noticed that I was able to support, guide, comfort others with similar issues! I couldn't help myself, couldn't see clearly for myself but was able to show right paths for others!! So keeping my troubles on the backburner, I enrolled for a course in Basic Counseling CBT (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy) with Dr. Minu Bhonsale at Heart to Heart Institute.

                    The idea was to empower myself with the tools in a systematic manner to be effective and result oriented for others in need. And there the MAGIC happened! The tools, the assignments, the sharings of us all students, the experiences and the profound knowledge of Dr. Minu Man helped me see where I stood, what was it that stopped me, what I could still create from the rut of my life. It was amazing, the Healer getting healed first... to become ready and prepared for the job with empathy and not sympathy!!

               

                       Not every student who attended the course became a Counselor. Many like me, healed their wounds and returned happily to their lives. Many others utilized the learnings in their already existing professions. And the remaining few including me decided to walk the path, bring in the much required Sunshine in the invisible sorrow filled hearts of many.

                       I started by saying that my career as a Counselor was challenging. Yes, it sure was. I remember for nearly a year, I was conducting free workshops on various topics, creating awareness on the need of counseling. Created awareness that the matters, issues to be dealt with remain only between the Counselor and the Counselee. The privacy of the Counselee is well protected. had started writing blogs too. Had taken sessions of personal counseling on Rs. 1 fee structure. Just as Body Health (Physical Health) needs to be cared for, similarly Mind Health (Emotional Health) is also very important. Mind and body function closely together creating the much needed harmony of our overall well being.

                         One does not become a Counselor by just passing the exams conducted for the course but a Counselor grows by each and every case that he/she handles. While gaining my peace of mind, my confidence in myself; finally I risked my Pharmacy profession and started operating as a full time Counselor. Time and patience are the two important tools for any and everything and yes, I too cleared all the hurdles of my personal and professional life with flying colours!!

                        It was a long time lingering thought that I should now start writing blogs again, share my journey as a Counselor, share the stories that may resonate with many of you out there, pen down the varied cases I have handled, is handling.. for you to be guided by it in your ups and downs and also to let you know that am here, nearby, available to you all at all times you need/require support, guidance, listening ear, clarity..

                        Stay tuned. Soon will share Counseling cases and stories and my journey as a Counselor too.

              Feel free to reach out to me.

POONAM R. KHAIRNAR

Relationship Counselor

Magical Relationship Counselors

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9004874093

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