STRESS:

            The Good and the Bad when starting a business

          Can anybody vouch that they’ve never felt the pinch of STRESS at some point in their lives? Let him be an Employee or an Employer, a Home-maker or a Super-mom or your Cranky Child. What is STRESS?

          

     Stress is the response you have when faced with a challenge or a potential threat. Stress is BENEFICIAL in SMALL DOSES, however when stress is a CONSTANT PART of your life, it HINDERS YOU and your PERFORMANCE at WORK. 

      

     Our body shows the first sign of stress by default. The symptoms could be PHYSICAL like aches and pains, blood pressure or even increased risk of heart attack; BEHAVIOURAL SYMPTOMS like anger, overly emotional, depressed, lack of energy, impatience, or even suicidal tendencies; SOCIAL STRESS OR RELIGIOUS STRESS. “Lok kay boltil?” majorly governs our life, “Me engineer jhalo karan vadilanchi iccha hoti”, “Me ratra-divas ek kartoy pan majha Udyog kahi baharat nahi”, “Kiti hi kele tari bayko khush hot nahi”. Simply trying to ignore the issues or having a few extra drinks might help for some time but in the long run??

    

       Sure, stress will remain a part of our life but if it is affecting your performance at work and your general well-being, it is essential to work on it so that it becomes a positive part of your life by really bringing the best out of you.

       Still if you are unable to see a way out, you can surely take support. Having Counseling can help you address the underlying issues related to your stress, such as low self-esteem, lack of confidence; by offering a safe environment for you to explore your issues and fears in confidence. It aids in your growth, both personal and professional. So next time you feel STRESS, remember it's worth taking the steps to find ways of reducing it because when managed well; stress can improve your productivity and help bring the best out of you when you need it the most. 

        

POONAM R. KHAIRNAR

RELATIONSHIP COUNSELOR


https://udyojak.org/poonamkhairnar

www.poonamkhairnar@gmail.com

EMOTIONAL HEALTH IN MARRIAGE

          The word "Health" by default is attached to our physical health only. The emotional aspect is now slowly gaining its much needed importance not only for self or individual but also in relationships/institution of marriage.

          Being emotionally healthy simply defines our control on our emotions & our behaviour attached with our emotions.

          Pramod had recently joined a new firm since he wasn't happy with his previous company. He would be mostly irritated, impatient with his colleagues there. However, to his dismay he had somehow landed with same kind of environment again!! A shift in the thought process was brought to Pramod's notice, "As the seed of thought is sowed, so shall be the sapling growing!!" The grudges, complaints, upsets against the colleagues of the previous company was still present in his memory. All it needed for the same zone to pop up was a few instances to occur in the new firm too!

          "Why me?" a question comprising of just 2 words encompasses one into anger, frustration, depression, zone of fear of failure, loneliness, many-a-times affects one's physical health, performance in work and yes, most importantly, the base of Marriage is endangered.

          It is easier and also a habit of most of us to first blame another for any situation/event arisen. By doing so primarily the burden of owning responsibility is immediately shrugged off onto another. For the time being, there is peace or let's say the gravity of mess created by self in that particular situation/event is diluted. However, in the long run it is just the beginning of the downfall of a relationship. Trust, loyalty, belief system, attitude, behaviour, space, peace... in short the world of the two people in the Marriage is slowly uprooted.

          The prominent fear faced and never accepted by the couple is the fear of non-acceptance by the other partner.

          Neeta knew that her fear of insecurity many-a-times had caused her to suspect her husband's loyalty in their marriage. She also doubted self thinking she is not good enough a partner in marriage to her man. Her continuous thought process made her more anxious, impatient, irritable. However, instead of owing and addressing the issue, she automatically found it easier to put blame on her husband. "He is always coming late." "He never answers my phone calls." "He never appreciates me."

          As cold and flu is known contagious disease, the emotional illness of one partner gradually affects the emotional well-being of the other partner. The children/future generation too is indirectly getting affected. It is not only the new generation that is arrogant or impatient or non-adjusting but what they have witnessed in their growing years is also important to be considered.

          The marriage is an institution wherein efforts by both the partners is required to be put in. It is never an attempt of workability on the part of one partner only, in marriage. Like all fingers of the hand are not the same, so is the case with the couple in Marriage. Instead of "Who is falling short?" "How can we rekindle the spark in Marriage?" is the question to be addressed.

          The search for the emotional well-being in a Marriage will surely start with the couples readiness to accept their responsibility in the Marriage, evaluate their shortcomings and commit to self to work on those. All you need to do is look for the support system around in the form of family, friends... COUNSELLOR.  

"LET'S LIVE, LAUGH N LOVE"

Feel free to connect with me through:

piyaangel.k@gmail.com

Counselor Poonam Khairnar on Facebook

counselorpoonamkhairnar.blogspot.com

Poonam Khairnar

Counselor

09004874093

http://udyojak.org/poonamkhairnar/

www.ebrochures.co.in/rvsa/

MARRIAGE COUNSELING

November 26, 2015 at 5:08pm

         It is not lack of love but the lack of FRIENDSHIP that makes unhappy marriages.

With the very first hint of pregnancy, both the parents inevitably start dreaming of the child's future... education, profession, marriage, their children!! As the child grows, a shift in the dreams, plans gradually start occurring and even before a happy marriage of their child can become a reality, the marriage of the parents witnesses turbulence. Suddenly like-minded Mom and Dad are not agreeing on many issues, their ideologies vary, society's and other people's views become important, many a times their own prestige or their own belief foundation is at stake.

Even before a new life can begin through marriage, the urgency rises of saving their own marriage. With the rising expectations, wants, needs, independency... the mentality towards adjustment within any relationship is being threatened.

Just as waves after waves run towards the sea shore, the strength of each wave is different. So is with the problems faced within marriages. With the passing time, responsibilities, with age... often finds oneself addressing many issues but on his/her own causing more confusion and mess.

To deal with your emotions, understand self and partner, to deal with the needs of self and partner, to get back the honeymoon phase now long lost in hardships of life, to understand our body and mind as years pass by in an institution of Marriage becomes a necessity.

A helping hand, a third party unbiased listening, empathy is all most of the times is needed as medicine in a Couple Therapy or even one of the partners taking initiative, Individual Counseling marks a start of a blissful marital life again.

Do schedule an appointment with Poonam Khairnar, Counselor. A simple talk maybe is just needed to find the avenues and new possibilities leading to a happy, fulfilling, gratitude filled life.

LET'S LIVE, LAUGH N LOVE

Feel free to connect with me through:

piyaangel.k@gmail.com

Counselor Poonam Khairnar on Facebook

counselorpoonamkhairnar.blogspot.com

Poonam Khairnar
Counselor
09004874093
http://udyojak.org/poonamkhairnar/